Mother-in-law

One of the neatest things about getting married is having a whole new family to figure out and adapt to. So far I love my new family members. My dad, my brother, my half-siblings, some aunts, some uncles, my grandparents, cousins, etc.

Yet, there are some I don't love so much for varying reasons. There is an aunt I already don't get along with because she decided to chew my husband out on our wedding day. It was for something absent-minded of him, but they should all know by now that he is extraordinarily absent-minded. *She could have brought her complaints to me, but whatever.

So I don't get along with her much and I don't particularly care, but there is someone else I don't get along with well and it's something I care a good deal about.

My mother-in-law.

I never wanted to be one of those women who always complains about her mother-in-law. I always thought the comparisons and shaming were stupid. And they are. I don't do those. We just don't get along well at all. And I complain about that a lot. At least to myself.

There are many reasons for this. Mostly I think it's just because we're incredibly different. She is great at math, sewing, crafts, and knitting. She's a movie and literature buff. I am none of those. I am too picky about my books and movies and I suck at math and crafts. She doesn't like to cook, she doesn't play any instruments, and I've not heard of any sport she could be interested in. I don't think she likes geology or forensic science and I don't think she's particularly interested in the field of health or criminal justice. She also doesn't like pets, but she likes babies. *Sigh*

So...we're basically opposites. Also, she intimidates me a lot. I don't know if that's because she's not open about things or if I'm just still not over my initial fear of her. Maybe I'm just scared to talk too much since we have virtually nothing in common and we don't think similarly at all. I don't want her to hate me, so I keep quiet but, in doing so, maybe I am making her hate me because I seem boring.

I feel like I just need to stop wanting a good relationship. If it happens, it will happen, but I should stop letting it bug me and just realize that it's not as important as I make it out to be. It would be nice and convenient, but that wouldn't be life, would it?